Boredom 101

Emotions, Health
Boredom is an emotion that befalls us all; often times on a regular basis. Whether its moments of non-activity to a lifetime of mundane, monotony can take on many different forms. The brain is compiled of a special hormone called dopamine. This controls pleasure and our overall sense of satisfaction. Individuals who are chronically bored reportedly have a decreased level of dopamine. In order for them to reach optimal stimulation, they require more dopamine production than the average person. Because of this chemical deficiency, some individuals cannot tolerate chronic inactivity. Whereas others may seem to naturally find entertainment in the mundane. Scientists have also reported that when individuals are bored, they experience heightened brain activity. When the brain is not being physically stimulated by an entertaining source, it prompts individuals…
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Signs Of High Emotional Intelligence

Emotions, Health
There are different aspects of intelligence, including emotional intelligence. You can’t exactly measure how much you know about emotions in the same way that you can measure how much you know about history or science or math, but there are a couple of key signs that you have a high emotional intelligence. This article will discuss five of those signs and will also lay out ways in which you can strengthen your own emotional intelligence. 1. Having High Emotional Literacy One way in which you might be emotionally intelligent without knowing it is by knowing the lingo. Also called emotional literacy, the ability to verbally express emotions is largely under-rated. Words like “happy,” “mad,” or “sad” are good enough sometimes but sometimes a more exact word like “fulfilled,” “provoked,” or…
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Sadness Is An Inevitable Emotion

Emotions, Health, Mental Wellness, Positivity
Sadness is associated with loss, disappointment, grief and helplessness. Yet, it’s an inevitable emotion. It’s a normal part of life. Fact is that we are the sum of our choices. Yet some choices become more prominent than others. They linger on and fester, creating an imbalance in your emotional state. Your emotions come in a complete range, as described by the American psychologist Paul Ekman who believed that there were six basic emotions - anger, happiness, surprise, disgust, fear and sadness - which rise up whenever you encounter certain situations, which can be either positive or negative. Emotions are intoxicating. They can take you over and dictate your outlook on life. When you’re happy, you feel invincible. Everything seems easy and clear. You feel like you can accomplish anything you…
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Joy vs Happiness

Emotions, Health, Mindset, Positivity
When individuals hear the word joy, the image of wide and bright smiles may initially come to mind. On the surface, happiness and joy may seem synonymous. Although closely related, there is a stark difference between the two, specifically it is the attitude of choice. Joy vs. Happiness One noteworthy essay describes happiness as "depending on external factors to exists." Therefore, individuals may get into the routine of saying, "When this happens, I'll be happy." This if-then mentality sends us into a never-ending cycle of waiting on happiness to fill a potential void. Joy, on the other hand, is more spiritual in nature. In fact, many religious denominations place joy as a sacred or holy emotion. Something that is seen as a blessing or rewarding occurrence. However, universally, joy is…
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Guilt And Your Health

Emotions, Health, Mindset
Guilt can be likened to an immense elephant sitting proudly on your chest. It's ever present and without a doubt heavy. The implicating effects of this can be gut-wrenching; even contributing to poor health. Although the notion that guilt specifically causes common illnesses has not been proven, researchers can agree that stress plays a major role in how our body wards off disease. Feeling guilty from a decision, past mistakes, or even indulgence can send our mind into a whirlwind of anxiety. In fact, one of the primary signs of a guilty conscious is paranoia. Shakespeare once quoted, "Suspicion always haunts the guilty mind." This leads us to the valuable conclusion that it is a part of our internal moral code. How Does Guilt Impact Us? Although it is an…
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Empathy Is Important

Emotions, Health, Relationships
Empathy Is Important For Emotional and Social Wellness When you consider what it means to offer empathy, a whole host of actions and feelings probably come to mind. Understanding someone’s suffering or circumstances, feeling sad for another person’s plight, and providing support to those in trouble are all examples. And, to be sure, this type of reaction and relationship with others is needed more so today than ever before. The dictionary tells us that empathy is “the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another.” That definition goes on to include that you can have this connection and understanding even when others have not fully explained their situation to you. In other words, you are tuned into the plights…
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Shame Is A Deep Emotion

Emotions, Health
Shame is a tricky emotion that is filled with complexities. Many may confuse this emotion with embarrassment as the effects are quite similar. Although embarrassment may be a result, shame is a much deeper emotion that can lead to serious self-esteem issues. One counselor describes shame as "an inner experience of being 'not wanted.' When comparing the difference between guilt and shame, he explains, "guilt is believing that one has done something bad; shame is believing that one is bad." The difference is stark and can prove to be self-destructive if not handled correctly. Where Does Shame Stem From? It is a deeply ingrained emotion can begin as early as infancy. If a child is constantly neglected, she may begin to doubt her self-worth. Questions like, "why doesn't my mother/father…
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How To Manage Frustration

Mindset, Personal development, Positivity
Learn to Manage Frustration Without Losing Your Mind We’ve all been there. You’re more than a little bothered that things aren’t going your way. Maybe they only have one checkout line open at the grocery store, or you’re steamed that you can’t seem to sink a putt from outside of two feet. Perhaps you’re maddeningly close to achieving a goal but you can’t quite get there. It almost seems like people and life are conspiring to test our ability to manage frustration. It’s enough to make you feel like you might lose your mind. Keep your sanity and manage frustration with these strategies: 1. Ask yourself why you’re frustrated. In general, frustration is not getting what you want. What are you trying to accomplish or what is it that you…
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Dealing With Anger

Mindset, Personal development
11 Tips for Overcoming Anger and Gaining Peace Anger is a common human emotion, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a victim of this negative emotion. As adults, we have an obligation to society and ourselves to avoid allowing our emotions from getting the best of us. There are many responses you can choose when faced with a situation that makes your blood boil. A responsible person finds a way to cool their emotions and find peace. Learn to manage your anger and arrive at a peaceful solution with these strategies: 1. Consider the negative consequences of anger. It’s tempting to run with your anger in the short-term but giving in to anger can cause even more challenges. Before lashing out or taking what you consider to be…
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Definition of Success

Mindset, Personal development, Positivity, Success
Determine Your Own Definition of Success Many people believe that the definition of success is having money. However, there are many wealthy people that are utterly miserable. Maybe success is about more than just money. You can define success for yourself. Is success about money? It can be if that’s what you choose. It can also be about something else. You can set several criteria and attempt to achieve them. What’s important is to create a definition for success that resides within your values, allows you to enjoy life, and avoids feelings of regret when you get older. This is easier to determine than you might think. Your definition of success is unique and yours to determine. Consider these ideas: 1. Time. Many people value time above all else. Most…
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