28 Key Habits And Mindsets Of Truly Happy People
As was discussed in a previous article real contentment and happiness isn’t one single thing. It’s a culmination of emotions, personality, genetics, feelings, and other circumstances and variables that life throws at us.
Research has given us a pretty good idea of what happiness can look like. While everyone has their limitations, there are plenty of things that you can do to achieve the maximum level of happiness for you.
There are 28 common factors that the happiest people share.
Abundance Of Love
One of the most important mindsets and habits of happy people is they love and are loved, be it romantic, familial or friendship love, love surrounds happy people.
Happy people love themselves. They are kind and thoughtful to self, engage in regular self-care practices, and care and protect their needs.
• Taking care of your emotional health
• Seeking healthy and supportive relationships
• Being assertive in honor of self
• Loving your own company
• Positive self-narrative
• Embrace your strengths
• Appreciate your weakness
Our daily lives can move at a frightening pace, and in that manic race, it’s easy to forget about looking after yourself. This is a surefire way to end up burnt out, unhappy, and ill.
Treat yourself regularly to ensure you are looking after, not just your long-term health, but also your happiness.
Truly happy are passionate and pursue their passions on a regular basis. Happy people engage in activities that make their souls sings, they seek out self-fulfillment and find moments of joy throughout the day. They also realize that happiness is not some future event, but is found in any exact moment of your life, like when walking in the rain, knitting a sweater, running their feet through warm sand, or painting a picture.
Just Let Go
It may be difficult to forgive and forget, but it’s a necessity for our happiness. When we hold on to grudges, we allow resentment, hurt, and anger to fester. These negative emotions are an obstacle to our own happiness. Letting go of grudges releases that negativity, and provides you with more space to fill with positive emotions.
Act With Kindness
Not only does it make you happier, but kindness is also contagious. When you show kindness to others your brain produces serotonin, feel good hormones that allow you to build strong relationships with the people around you, thus fostering positive feelings.
Problems Are Challenges
Happy people do not see problems as obstacles; rather they consider them as an opportunity, or a challenge that rewards them with personal growth and fulfillment.
A Gratitude Attitude
Thankful people have a better ability to cope with stress, because they have more positive emotions, thus they are able to reach their goals more effectively. Perhaps the most effective way to harness the power of gratitude is by keeping a journal. Take time out every day to write down what you are grateful for. This will lead to improved optimism, which results in happier moods, and improved physical health.
Happy people lead productive lives. Being productive means…
• Setting and achieving goals
• Doing something important
• Having a purpose
• Being flexible
There’s nothing wrong with dreaming big- big dreams mean you’re more likely to accomplish those goals, because you’re driven. Big dreamers are more optimistic, which makes them more positive, thus they are more likely to achieve what they truly desire.
Forget The Small Stuff
It’s easy to get angry and rant- but think about what’s upsetting you. It’s probably going to be irrelevant by the same time next week, so why should you sweat it now? Truly happy people know how to let the daily irritations of life roll right off their backs.
Speak Well About Others
Indulging in a bit of gossip in the office is tempting, but speaking negatively about other people is essentially like drawing a bath of negative emotions and soaking in them like you would a bubble bath. Resist the temptation of gossip, and speak positively about other people. This will allow you to foster positive thinking throughout your own life.
Forget Making Excuses
Our impulse in many situations is to blame someone else for our failure. Blaming others for your mistakes, though, just makes it more difficult for you to rise above them. Truly happy people take responsibility for the mistakes that they make, and see them as an opportunity to improve and change for the better.
Live For Today
Whatever you are doing right now- immerse yourself in it. Be present in every moment. Take in all the aspects of each moment, the sights, sounds, smells and emotions you feel.
Don’t get caught up with replaying the negative events of your past in your head, and stop worrying about the future. Enjoy what is happening in your life now. This also means letting go of things beyond your control, not scheduling every moment of the day, and stopping to breathe.
Get up at the same time every single day. It’s easier than you think. Following a sleep schedule regulates your circadian rhythm, thus making it easier for you to wake up every morning, leaving you feeling more energized. The happiest, and most successful, people get up early every day. It enhances focus and productivity.
Forget Making Comparisons
Everyone is unique, and so is the life that they live. Don’t get caught up in comparing yourself to other people. Your worth cannot be measured by making comparisons. That goes for thinking yourself as better than your peers, too.
This fosters feelings of judgement, leaves with a superiority complex, and can be detrimental to your happiness. Measure your success on your life, and your progress.
Optimism And Positivity
Happy people have a positive mindset. Misery loves company, that saying rings true. You should surround yourself with friends who are happy and optimistic, ensuring that you are surrounded with positive energy.
• Focusing on the good instead of the bad
• Fixing instead of complaining
• Accepting instead of complaining
• Say yes, instead of no
• Looking at the bright side
• Having fun
• Laughing at yourself
• Not sulking or being angry over what you don’t have, but being grateful for what you do have
• Seeing the good even in the worst situations
• Laughter and hopefulness
You Don’t Need The Approval Of Others
Part of travelling a path to your dreams is drowning out what the naysayers have to say. Seeking the opinions of others is one thing, but it is entirely different to allow the naysayers to stand in your way. Truly happy people follow their hearts, and don’t allow themselves to be too bogged down with external approval.
The Power Of Listening
You can take time to listen and soak up wisdom from others, while quieting your mind at the same time. Intense listening brings different perspectives, and can help you feel more content.
Nurture Social Relationships
Happy people nurture positive social relationships; they make time for family, spouses, and friends, as they greatly value these connections.
Meditation is an excellent tool to keep your mind sharp and focused. It is calming and encourages inner peace. Research has shown it results in physical changes to the brain that leads to higher levels of happiness.
Our diets have a direct impact on our energy levels and moods, for the short term and the long term. Eating a healthy, balanced diet can keep your brain and body focused and happy. While eating unhealthy, processed foods will leave you feeling sluggish, and prone to illness.
Exercise can boost our serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine levels- all chemicals, which promote health and wellness. These can relieve symptoms of depression, and reduce the effects of stress. Exercise isn’t just a tool for losing weight, it can also prevent disease, and help you live longer. All of this is a benefit, and daily exercise is an excellent way to reduce stress, enhance your frame of mind, and leave you feeling happier.
Being surrounded by clutter has a way of sucking the life force right out of you. It leaves you feeling in a state of chaos. It’s usually a source of stress that is unrecognized and creating stress and anxiety.
Clutter can create a sense of distraction, guilt, and frustration. Take time to de-clutter your life, at home and in the office. Get rid of everything that isn’t absolutely crucial, and free up not only your physical environment, but your mind, too.
Whenever you tell a lie, you are more likely to experience an increase in your stress levels. Which often results in your self-esteem crumbling. Not to mention that if other people discover that you tell lies, it damages both your professional and personal relationships. Instead, tell the truth. The fact is that happy people are honest, not only about everyday things, but also about their feelings, boundaries, and needs.
You don’t have to stress about people uncovering your lies, or keep track of the various mistruths you have old. It will not only build others trust in you, but boost your mental health.
Happy people maintain a strict level of control over their own lives and they make their own choices. Don’t allow others to dictate how you live your life. It’s up to you to establish personal control over your life. This enables you to fulfill your dreams, and your goals, and provides you with a sense of self-worth.
Accept Even What You Cannot Change
Not everything that occurs in our life is perfect, and that’s okay. Truly happy people learn to accept the setbacks and injustices they face. They understand that certain things cannot be changed, and a better use of their energy is taking control of what they are able to change.
Engage In Meaningful Conversations
While we all enjoy a bit of small talk, shooting the breeze doesn’t lead us to a happier life. People who engage in less chit-chat are happier than those who get caught up in small talk. Additionally, great listening skills helps build stronger relationships, leads to a greater sense of wellbeing, and a better experience all-around.
Complain The Right Way
No one likes a whiner, and it’s fair to say that whining is usually considered a negative. It can definitely be annoying when you’re on the receiving end of it. If you complain the right way, though, it can benefit your mental health.
So, how can you complain effectively? When expressing a concern yields results, which leads to an improved mood, as well as building self-esteem, and leaving you feeling empowered. In other words, if you want to complain right- you must identify an issue, and take positive steps to address it, rather than being stuck in a cycle of whining.
While there may still be plenty left for us to understand about happiness, research has shown us it’s more than just luck. While you may have been dealt a worse hand than someone else, it’s about how you play the hand. In fact, it might be even be exactly how you play the cards, but how you find a way to enjoy playing them, no matter what is thrown at you.
If you’re ever struggling with what it is you’re striving for, simply remember PERMA. It was created by Dr. Martin Seligman, and it stands for 5 elements that are considered key to comprising our overall well-being.
• Positive Emotion – Love, peace, curiosity, gratitude, hope, pleasure, satisfaction, and inspiration all fall into this category.
• Engagement – Losing ourselves in a project or task provides us with disappeared time, because we are totally engaged in it.
• Relationships – People who are engaged in positive and meaningful relationships with friends and loved ones are happier than people who are not.
• Meaning – Having a sense of meaning comes from serving something that is bigger than we are. Whether it is a cause, a charity, or related to our spirituality- something that will have a positive impact on humanity provides us with the meaning we need in our lives.
• Achievement – If we want to feel significant satisfaction with life, we must strive to achieve something that betters us in some way.
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